A beeping alarm clock demandingly pulls me out of a pleasant slumber. I don’t appreciate being woke up at an hour that polite society still considers nighttime. But the fact that I’m only here for five days gives me enough motivation to hesitantly slide myself out of the hotel room bed.Â
I skip my normal routine from back home – a hot shower, applying make up, putting every hair in its necessary place and mulling over what shirt seems right for the day. I trade it in for a quick face rinse, tooth brushing and throwing on whatever outfit I happen to pull out of my suitcase.
Arriving at the church van, I see my friends are in the same groggy state as I feel. As we speed down the pothole-filled streets of Reynosa, Mexico, I attempt to remember why I signed up for this mission trip. “I appreciate the privileged life I have. I’m involved at youth group. Do I really have to be doing this?….” – My thoughts are interrupted by the van abruptly coming to a stop. It’s now 5:00 in the morning.
We follow our leader up the stairs of a quiet building and enter a large, dimly lit room. I was told we would be meeting for an hour of prayer time every morning, but this is not what I had envisioned. Brothers and sisters in Christ from around the city met here every morning to pray. Most of them were walking in one large circle around the perimeter of the room – some quiet and somber, others fervently talking out loud to God.
Feeling completely out of my comfort zone, I join in the activity of walking and praying. But instead distracted thoughts bounce through my head – “Some people I know back home complain about getting up one extra morning a week for Sunday School. They do this every morning here! This isn’t a mission trip for them – this is their actual lives!”.
Sharing a memory from a mission trip I went on when I was fifteen might seem like a strange way to lead into the topic of prayer. But it’s where my eyes were opened and I began a journey of discovering how a true Christian life looks.
I learned a lot on that mission trip. But something that stuck with me the most was the faith of the people. They were full of self sacrifice, devotion to prayer, gratitude and love – qualities I knew needed to be brought into my own life. And now many years later I’m still working on consistently living them out.
So, why do we pray? Does God hear all of our prayers? Are we even praying right? Prayer can be a frustrating concept. But it’s an incredibly important aspect of a Christian life – a concept that we must understand.
An unfortunate and common misconception is that God must answer all our petitions with a ” Yes” in order to be responding to them. Here’s a hypothetical scenario to paint a picture of this – My husband walks in the door after work one day exhausted and filthy. I ask him to please wash the dishes. He responds, “Honey, I had a rough day today. I’m going to shower first and wash them after that, OK?”. I then respond over and over, ” Wash the dishes? Wash the dishes? Could you please wash the dishes? “. As if I’m completely deaf. I do this until he relents with a quick, “Alright, crazy person”, and begins washing the dishes without showering first.
That would not be a healthy move AT ALL for our relationship. I hope to never treat my husband in that manner, and I highly doubt you would interact with that attitude towards anyone you love either. But many times that’s how our prayer life looks. We act ignored and rejected when God simply responds, “Wait, dear one. Have faith in My plans for you.” or, “I have something so much better in the works for that part of your life.”. If there’s no immediate results, He must not be answering our prayer. It’s forgotten that God knows all things. The past and the future are in His capable hands – and He has a beautifully perfect plan for everything.
As God’s children, we are to approach Him with the consistency that we do a close friend and interact with Him in the same caring, devoted and present manner that we do with loved ones. But we are also to show Him a respect, reverence and holy fear that we show no other.
Another unfortunate trend is only spending quality time in prayer when we are in need. What if we went to a close friend only when we wanted something from them? They would probably cease being our close friend. We are so blessed to have a gracious and forgiving Lord.
1 Thessalonians 5:17 tells us to pray without ceasing. The prayers of God’s children are like sweet smelling incense and glorious music to His ears. They’re the way we acknowledge our desire for His leading and dependence on His redemption. He is a constant source of grace and love that can be found nowhere else.
Philippians 4:6 says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God”. While the frequency of prayers are worth addressing, there’s something of more importance – Are they rooted in a right heart?
We’re told to lift up holy hands in prayer, without anger or disputing (Timothy 2:8). Harboring unforgivingness taints the condition of our hearts. A step in prayer that cannot be forgotten is to notice the plank in our own eye instead of complaining of the speck in someone else’s eye. Without recognizing this, our prayers run a high risk of not being within God’s will.
God doesn’t always answer “Yes” like we want. Could it sometimes be because we’re praying with wrong motives (James 4:3)? Even when our ways seem innocent to us, our motives are weighed by the Lord. If we first commit all our plans to Him, we will succeed (Proverbs 16:2-3).
Righteousness is defined as holy and upright living, in accordance with God’s standard. It’s said that the prayers of the righteous are powerful and effective (James 5:16). So how do we become righteous? Jesus’ death on the cross made it possible for Christ’s righteousness to transfer to those who trust in Him alone. By trusting God, our faith is credited as righteousness (Romans 4:5).
Verses throughout the Old and New Testiment express the importance of ridding oneself of unrighteousness before prayer. It’s a necessity to repent and humble ourselves prior to approaching the throne of God.
Prayer is how we build a relationship with God. He is the Creator and Ruler of all things! He unleashes lightening and tells the rain and snow when to fall on the earth. Hawks take flight by His wisdom and eagles soar at His command. (Job 38-39).
This Almighty God, Alpha and Omega and Living One is available to each one of us! He’s standing at the door knocking – we have free, constant access to Him through prayer! Seeking wisdom is good. Evangelizing is good. Gaining knowledge is good. But it’s all to no gain if we’ve failed to build it on the foundation of knowing God.
“This is what the LORD says:
Let not the wise man boast of his wisdom
or the strong man boast of his strength
or the rich man boast of his riches,
but let him who boasts boast about this: that he understands and knows Me,
that I am the LORD, who exercises
kindness,
justice and righteousness on earth,
for in this I am delighted,
declares the LORD.”
Jeremiah 9:23-24